I have a lot of things to say today.First, I have to give a great big shout out to my friend E in Seattle for sending me this really awesome care package (pictured to the right). I told her on Saturday that I was pregnant and by Monday I had a box of presents waiting for me on the porch when I got home. What a peach cobbler.
It's the day of my first doctors appointment since I found I was pregnant! I am excited and nervous. I read in What to Expect that my doc may stick her fingers in my butt, so you know, I'm all wigged out about that. Why does having a baby involve so much butt stuff? I am so not into it. Also, I'm not really excited to clamber up on the ob's table because I injured my back yesterday and it hurts really freaking bad. I am excited though because today I will learn all sorts of great stuff about my baby.
Like an estimated due date! According to my hormone levels I am around 6 weeks in (my own calculations there, natch). I am excited to get a more accurate reading. I am also curious to know whether or not they'll try to take pictures of my baby, and I kind of hope that they do because I know that future child is a freaking super star and totally is ready to be photographed. I also get my horse pills today! I don't know why I am excited to be taking prenatal vitamins, but whatevs, I am a freak you know.
To wrap it up I have one teensy complaint/observation:
What is up with dudes? I totally don't get it. Of all of the people I have told about having a baby none of my dude friends (with the exception of 3 or 4, including my husband!) have said congratulations or anything positive, in fact mostly they have neglected to say a damn word. I have a lot of dude friends too and they've been some of my best friends over the years, so I really don't know wtf. The thing that has really set me off is a couple of men in my life have been less than um, appreciative about the whole thing. For example, my father who I have been trying to get a hold of for nearly a week, says to me when I answer the phone the other day, "what is up? i don't want to be a gradfather". Instead of hanging up on him like I should have in retrospect, I tell him that it is too freaking bad and spend the next half an hour comforting him because of what is happening to me.
So what is it mens? Why you so scared of babiez? We've been friends forever, why are you holding back now?
I'm sorry to hear about all the crappy mens you have to deal with lately. Spenser and I are very excited for you. I am still shocked and totally have random moments of "excitedness". This is going to be the first baby in our family to be born!!
ReplyDeleteThanks Sheree! I am so happy that future child has such a large extended family to fill it full of love!
ReplyDeleteMaybe you could post something not quite so mysterious about it. Just from the past few days of chatting with people it was made clear to me that several people whom I know read your eljay had no clue. Not trying to invalidate your feelings or anything (I like it when people listen to what I'm saying too!) but before you decide that they are all jerks maybe you could spell it out in no uncertain terms. Also, you should poke your dad in the eye for me.
ReplyDeleteI have been oblique, maybe. Maybe. But there are dudes who I know know who have been totally mum. Or once I told them that has pretty much been the end of the conversation. That is really what I referring too. If people don't know, that is fine. I have referred to baby a few times in my liverjournal, I don't need a world wide round of applause. That said.
ReplyDeleteSome people are jerks and so far it has been mostly dudes. I want to know why.
Another thing to consider is that people may meter their response depending on your feelings about the situation. For instance (just an example) if one of my good friends tells me that they broke up with their SO I wouldn't really respond one way or another unless I knew how they felt about it. Maybe guys are just a more diplomatic like that. At any rate I don't need to make excuses for anyone since I KNOW and I'm excited, especially since it means I get to spoil someone else's kid and then not have to clean up poo!
ReplyDeleteScreened entries on the post where you announced it, no declaration, hidden terminology. Most dudes have learned by now not to ASK about things that are veiled because they aren't sure how people will respond for figuring out their sneaky language. If you want to get a positive guy response state your situation clearly and include how it effects your emotion. Most guys won't go out of their way to figure out a riddle if they are unsure if there is a positive or negative response waiting for them on the other end. I also said congrats in your LJ and that entry got trimmed. Don't make it hard for people to congratulate you, it doesn't encourage long term positive behavior.
ReplyDeleteI am still jelly and I am going to squeeze my niece in your honor tomorrow. And Suki right now.
ReplyDeleteI didn't trim any lj responses John, and you can go back and look, you never said congratulations.
ReplyDeleteWhen I made that first post I was nervous/scared and didn't know if I was ready to let people know yet, that is why those comments were screened. It took me all of half a day to unscreen them.
Yay puppy squeezes! I saw the first picture of my baby today Jen! It looks like a jelly-bean.
ReplyDeleteA teeny tiny jelly bean! Will you scan it??? Are you going to find out the sex or will you wait for the surprise? I had a good friend who waited and said it was the best and most genuinely happy moment of her life. I however could never have that kind of patience and discipline.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you liked your care package! I just wish I could be THERE instead of HERE. Dammit! There will be lots more visiting for sure ;)
ReplyDeleteWhen I hit the "reply" button to say congrats the entry was blocked off. I didn't go back digging through because I don't go jumping through hoops to give someone a pat on the back. I figured you didn't want me to say anything because your reply had been screened.
ReplyDeleteHere it is, congrats.