I have probably made my nurse practitioner really mad at me. She told me a fib though, and I had to call her on it because I really didn't want to have an amnio. I had thought about having an amnio and even agreed to it, but when it came down to doing it, it just seemed a little excessive. I am, as you know, young and healthy, R and I are not related and none of my blood tests have put in me in a high risk group for anything. So this weekend we decided that the blood tests were enough. My NP just got back to me this morning and said it was too late, amnio or nothing (basically). How can that be? I asked, when I've got this (kaiser distributed) book right here that says I can have the first two parts of the screening done by 14 weeks and 2 days and we're 9 days away from that? Oh, she says, in that case, she'll get me the blood test and try to find a space for me in imaging.
R said that I shouldn't be too ticked because we waited until the last minute, but I'm like, this lady totally just lied to me! She did not think I had looked at the Kaiser material before I asked her to help me with my other options! And we both (the NP and I) know that she lied to me! What kind of relationship can we have? I think I need to ask for a new nurse.
I am serious. Maybe it seems like I am overreacting, but I am not sure that I want someone on my team who can just tell me a bold faced lie to discourage me from inconveniencing them. I thanked her profusely for her time in looking into the matter for me and I was very polite. In short, I do not feel like I have behaved like a spoiled brat who has the Kaiser nurses at their beck and call. However, I do feel like she did not want to take the trouble to make things work for me, and I really do not feel like that is the kind of person I want at my side while I am delivering my baby.
Selfish? Perhaps, but we are not talking about the color of faaking centerpieces here. I'm growing a goddamned human! I want Tim Gunn! Make it work!
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10 hours ago

girlfriend, do what you gotta do. you are totally within your rights here. trust yourself!
ReplyDeleteWhat, like she gets paid overtime for performing the Corky/Trigg test? You should be pissed. Good work. Get a new nurse.
ReplyDeleteDid they say if it's a girl or a boy yet?
When it comes to your body and your baby, you can be as selfish as you want. Of course, I don't think that wanting to have a nurse that isn't going to lie to you is selfish at all!
ReplyDeleteRight on. I am all about being an informed and assertive patient when it comes to all things health related- and ESPECIALLY when it comes to your child. You'll always wonder how truthful she is being and I can imagine you want to go into this process as confident and comfortable as possible.
ReplyDeleteTotally fire her. You are absolutely right, if the trust is broken, you are not going to feel safe with her while you are in labor, believe me, you need to TRUST that person!! Fire away!
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